I turned 30 in March -- what a peculiar age. I identify with my 20's because that's all that I've known for the past 10 years. I am a mother, a wife and an entrepreneur, but I will still challenge anyone to a water gun fight. I am old enough to "know better" and young enough to wear crop tops.
Okay. I have a few career goals that I want to accomplish and don't feel pressure to get them done within a certain amount of time. I prefer the right time over "right now".
We are trained to think that we are supposed to have it all when we turn 30 -- not true!
I have friends that are single and have yet to find their life's passion/purpose. They will compare themselves to a woman next door or Beyoncé (not fair!). They may read an article about an amazing woman who began a startup with a hint of jealousy or come across wedding ideas on Pinterest in disgust.
I have observed how family and friends reassure these women. "You don't know if they're truly happy in their marriage," or "She has a business but no life". Sorry to break it to you, but some women have amazing marriages and fulfilling careers and personal lives. You should be happy for them.
The game of comparison is an unfair one. Every woman has successes and failures in their life, and one big move forward does not mean that they have never experienced several steps backward.
The next time that you find yourself in a conversation that centers around a woman who you believe isn't deserving of success or is posting tons of pictures of her "perfect" life on Instagram, stop yourself and find something more productive to do. Sign up for a class at General Assembly or attend a charity event -- focus on living your best life and everything will fall into place.
Flowers survive harsh winters until Spring comes. When the season changes, they bloom beautifully. Wait for your blooming season and show love to others when their time arrives -- we've all survived our very own winters.