Queasy and exhilarating. Your body electrifies with potential. The warmth of success fills your veins. At that moment, there is no more hoping, for you have achieved something grand.
Maybe you achieved a goal or are on the receiving end of an amazing opportunity. You defied the odds, outshined the competition, proved the world wrong. Doesn't it feel beautiful? No words can truly describe those surreal moments, but you are familiar with how it feels to win.
But how does it feel when we lose? Are we numb? Do we begin to doubt ourselves? Are we withdrawn or hurt? Where is our appetite? Why did we isolate ourselves? Is the shame that we feel real or just a figment of our imaginations?
We all deal with failure and life's obstacles in different ways. Some of us move on fairly quickly while others escape reality (drugs, alcohol, busy schedule, etc.) or develop self-doubt and insecurity.
Failure fucking hurts. There is no way of getting around that. Those feelings are true and valid and you should honor them when felt. However, we shouldn't dwell on unfavorable events that occur to us. Here's a few reasons why:
Failure Is Divine
Take a moment and think of all of the jobs that you have had over the years. Did you ever stop to think that you getting the position meant that someone else wouldn't? Sometimes, other people need certain blessings more than we do. Or you may find that the opportunity was a bad fit and would have given you more trouble down the line.
Failure manifests into the following afirmations:
- Not right now.
- Not this way.
- Let's learn from this.
Obstacles ask these questions:
- Do you have faith that things will STILL work out?
- Are you learning how to/how not to go about this for future reference?
- Should this be your focus right now?
- How patient and persistent are you?
- Can you create a solution for this problem?
Failure/obstacles are divine because they protect us from unfavorable outcomes, events and circumstances that we cannot see. They also teach, train and nurture us to be better people.
Think of a time that you couldn't find your car keys and later discovered that you avoided an accident or if you weren't approved for a business loan but later discovered and received an amazing grant that covered your startup expenses.
Think of all the businesses that have been founded as a solution to a problem or need!
No Pain Lasts Forever
Tattoos hurt like hell, but the pain soon becomes a distant memory. Every time that I get a new piece, I'm reminded of this!
Failure is the same way, it hurts so bad at the moment when things go wrong. Time passes and things either get better or you focus on creating a solution for your problem.
You look back on those unfavorable moments and think of how you survived them. Don't you feel triumphant?
Life Has Too Many Ups and Downs..
...so be as emotionally intelligent as you can! Every unfortunate situation that happens to you is not a tragedy. You're also not the only person on earth who has experienced failure. Stay as positive as you possible. As life goes on, you will evolve and learn to appreciate the wrongs that didn't go right.
How do you cope with obstacles and failure?