I wake up extremely early for work during the week and it kind of rules my life. If I start my week without proper rest, it throws my entire vibe off. I spend the next week catching up and then it all comes crashing down. I am now reporting live from home sick and extremely tired!
For the past two months, I have been trying my best to get 8 hours of sleep every night. I have been somewhat successful but am experiencing quite a few challenges as of late. Most my challenges have been dinners after work with friends or work events and also just spending extra quality time with family — okay and also staying up past my bedtime to watch ‘Being Mary Jane’.
When I don’t get a full 8 hours of sleep, I feel incomplete and pretty sluggish during the day. I get home and have no energy left to do anything outside of helping my daughter with her homework and chatting with my husband about my day. I just sit on the couch in a catatonic stupor, scrolling through Instagram and liking photos of Paris Fashion Week street style photos. I am not motivated to read a book (you know all the books that you wanted to read in 2017), speak on the phone with family or work on passion projects. This can’t be life!
So now, unless I have specifically planned in advanced, I will not be sacrificing my eight hours of sleep for anyone or anything. I deserve to have a clear mind and a rested body. No convinced to do the same? Here are some benefits of getting rest every night:
Learning a new language or skill? Sleep protects your new found knowledge while you catch some z’s. Now we know why we were supposed to get a good night’s rest before the SAT’s .
Inflammation is linked to all types of diseases. Researchers have found that people who get less rest have higher levels of inflammatory protein in your blood. Sleep helps your body to heal!
Sleep and metabolism are controlled by the same parts of your brain. When you are tired, hormones go into your blood and make you hungry. Secure the bikini body with adequate sleep, Sis!
Getting your proper amount of rest can help you decrease your anxiety and make you less moody. Sleeping during the weekend is not enough. Get 8 hours a day to keep your mind, body and soul healthy.
Do you get 8 full hours of sleep every night?
It was the third day of Ramadan. I was home in D.C. for Memorial Day weekend with my niece and daughter. We visited a friend's house for a play date. I asked her and her mother about how Ramadan was going. My friend mentioned how clear her mind was through the annual fasting that commemorates Muhammad's revelation of the Quran. As I sat eating the dates that she offered me while our girls played together, I was inspired to do research on the meaning of Ramadan. After researching I found out so much -- I even learned that dates are used to break Muslims daily fasts after Iftar because they help your body to hydrate faster.
What moved me the most about Ramadan was Muslims sacrifice to feel and sympathize with the hungriest people in the world through fasting. I realized that even though I wasn't born into a wealthy family, I have never been hungry or without food in my entire life. I don't know what that feels like. Something within me wanted to experience that.
When we got back home to New York I sat my alarm for a 4:15 a.m., washed and cut some fruit for my morning meal before sunrise (Sahur) and just thought about how this next month would be for me. The next day I woke up to my alarm without a problem. I hopped out of bed and immediately prayed. After prayer, I cooked myself a delicious breakfast of egg whites with cheese, veggie sausage links, waffles, blueberries, strawberries, plain Greek yogurt and iced green tea. I got dresssed and ready for work with a bit of time to spare.
I went to work and didn't feel hungry for the entire first day! It wasn't until the 5th day that I found myself feeling lightheaded while I was shooting on set. I sat down for a bit and started to feel better. That night I drank a liter of water at Iftar in hopes of not feeling so hydrated throughout the day. On the 5th day I also noticed how much discipline it takes to fast and was so happy that I started.
Here are some things that I learned from joining Muslims all over the world for Ramadan 2017:
People Interpret Discipline In Different Ways
While talking to friends, family and co-workers about Ramadan, they either felt one of two ways: inspired or uncomfortable. Mostly everyone that I talked to encouraged me and felt inspired by what Ramadan meant to me and to Muslims. However, a few people did feel uncomfortable. As the world and media alike continue to portray Muslims and Islam as an extremists practicing an extreme religion, I could tell that some people were disturbed by me participating in Ramadan. On the other hand I found that others were more uncomfortable with the level of discipline it takes to practice Ramadan on a daily basis. Discipline can ignite feelings of inadequacy within people who feel like they lack the focus or character to carry out difficult tasks/habits. I just ignored that energy and kept on pushing!
You Control Your Mind, Your Mind Does Not Control You
Common feedback that I received during the month was how most people didn't think they could make it through Ramadan because of mood swings. During the month I kept thinking about the phrase, "Mind over matter," which rings so true when you are fasting. My mind was clear just like my friend said her was. I started to notice how much I use food as a source of comfort in my life and how unhealthy that can be. You begin to fast from food and end up fasting from unhealthy habits. I was very conscious of what I put in my body and I listened to my body a lot (Am I hungry or full? Do I really want to eat that or do I want it just because it's there? My body feels tired. I'm going to listen to rest). I felt amazing and even though I had a hard time one Sunday when I was so hungry that I pinned over 20 recipes on Pinterest (and literally drooled at every photo), I felt so powerful and accomplished when I made it to Iftar. I've learned that I am in control of my mind and body and I can achieve whatever I set out to do.
Waking Up Early Is Tough But Rewarding
After Ramadan, I'm going to continue to wake up early. Praying/meditation really sets your intention for the day. I also like the extra "Me" time that I had for myself -- it really makes a difference. If I have to wake up an hour early to have a smoother day, why not? Spirituality is a huge part of fasting. After praying for my family, I would always ask for strength to get through fasting everyday.
Islam Is a Beautiful Religion
I have always had Muslim friends who have taken the time to show me how beautiful of a religion Islam is. There are Muslims of all shades and backgrounds all over the world who unite and celebrate their beliefs together as one.
Ramadan Is Not About Losing Weight But You Will Anyway
I lost 7 pounds which is amazing considering that I didn't hit the gym often. I feel amazing.
I am looking forward to Ramadan next year. Eid Mubarak!
I've been going through a bit of female drama for the past few years. This drama has influenced my decision to temporarily not start any new friendships. I need time to process why it is so hard for me to maintain friendships when I try my absolute best.
Let me explain what usually happens. I connect with someone that I really like, we get on well, we do nice things for each other, then "it" happens. "It" being an underhanded comment about me, my family or my life ("Styling, is that a real job?", "I hope your life is as good as it looks like on Instagram!", "Your husband let's you wear clothes like that out of the house?"). The comment is usually awkward or out of line, but I ignore it in hopes of not taking anything too personal. The comments gradually intensify, then their actions begin to speak louder than their words.
In college, I remember two of my closest friends giving me an ultimatum. If I kept hanging out with another girl that we went to school with, we couldn't be friends. I chose to end the friendship because no one governs who I choose to surround myself with. I spoke to one of the two friends recently and she said, "I have no regrets in life except for ending our friendship. You were always there for me when I really needed you." When we finally get together soon, I want to know why she felt so strongly about not accepting me for who I was at that time. Was it because we were younger and immature? Was it possessiveness?
I spoke about this female dilemma with a friend who came to visit a few weeks ago. She said that a lot of my issues with women that I associate with may be insecurity within them that manifests in a lot of different ways. Are some women really that insecure with themselves that they have to tear someone down or participate in unnecessary passive aggressive behavior with "friends"? And if so, what part of tearing someone down actually makes them feel good about themselves?
I know so many beautiful, intelligent and accomplished women and I just want to believe that this isn't the case! My husband (who never gets into my female drama) has even commented about the "switch-up" that I experience so often -- when a friends turns to foe.
I'm protecting my energy by any means necessary now. If it doesn't feel right, I'm not doing it. If someone gives me a vibe, I'm listening to it.
What has your experiences been with cultivating adult friendships with women? Chime in below in the comments!
Who doesn't love a day at the museum? You see beautiful works of art and leave the museum feeling completely inspired! Don't want to lose said inspiration? Here's a surefire way to create your own personal collection of works at home that will breathe life into your space and make you an art collector!
Read the tips below to help you navigate purchasing your first piece:
All About You
Make sure that you choose pieces that reflect who you are. This will help strengthen your collection as it grows. Think of what colors and art genres you like and remember to trust your gut. You don't need a reason to like a piece. Connecting and being drawn to the piece is all the reason that you need!
Do Your Research
See Saw is an app for your phone that helps you organize in-person trips to galleries in your city. This can help you become familiar with the curators, art dealers and galleries in your hood. The Journal is a great resource for discovering artists and learning more about their work.
Out of my three recommendations, Artsy is my favorite -- there's so much that you can do in one place! On this amazing site, you can learn about artists, purchase pieces, participate in live auctions and get information about exhibitions, fairs and museums all over the world.
Know Your Budget
Although I just cried inside about the live Kerry James Marshall piece being auctioned via Artsy for 35k, that kind of money is not needed to own works of art. Understand what you can afford and stick to that. You will be surprised to see all of the pieces that you can buy without breaking the bank.
Make Your Purchase Official
No matter how much your piece costs, you should have a certificate of authenticity that comes with it. This will help you understand the value and origins of your artwork.
Once you start, you can't stop. Be sure to install your pieces as soon as possible. You will be so content coming home and knowing that you've invested your money in a piece that will last forever.
Will you be investing in any pieces anytime soon?
This week, the Business of Fashion dropped the top 16 companies to work for in 2017. They surveyed over 2,600 industry professionals from across the globe. The companies that made the cut were top performers in 3 categories - Rewards & Benefits, Leadership & Development and Culture & Working Environment.
Check out the top 16 companies below:
Rewards & Benefits
- GAP Inc. (USA)
- Zara (Spain)
- Levi Strauss & Co. (USA)
- Calvin Klein (USA)
- Cotton on Group (Australia)
Leadership & Development
- Adidas (Germany)
- Gucci (Italy)
- H&M (Stockholm)
- Zalando (Berlin)
- Galeries Lafayette (Paris)
Culture & Working Environment
- Nordstrom, Inc. (USA)
- Loewe (Spain)
- Berluti (Paris)
- Warby Parker (USA)
- Farfetch (London)
- Tommy Hilfiger (Amsterdam)
- Warby Parker (USA)
Find the original story and study here.
Do you work at any of the company's above? If so, do you believe the study's findings are accurate?
“I become very territorial about my identity because it’s been hijacked by so many people, with their own projections.” -Ruth Negga
Have you ever met someone and wonder why they try so hard to discredit you, challenge you or try to dim that bright light that makes you so special? What type of energy exists within someone where they exhibit this behavior? Sure, it's easy to blame jealousy (which is a valid reason as to why someone may want to dim your light) but what about inadequacy and life traumas?
With feelings of inadequacy, I find that there is someone in a person's circle of friends, family or colleagues who can do or feel something that they cannot. When I say do or feel, I mean that the more adequate person is genuinely happy or has a special skill that this person wishes they had. This person who they consider more adequate is usually the target of passive aggressive behavior and/or verbal or physical abuse. When one feels inadequate, their negative behavior towards the more adequate people in their lives is not about the individual but more about how they view themselves.
Are you familiar with the term "life trauma"? Life traumas or psychological traumas involve unique experiences when one has felt alone, abused, overwhelmed or defeated. Unlike normal traumas that we face everyday, life traumas leave a severe impact on our lives, how we view ourselves and how we communicate, relate and interact with others. Some examples include childhood bullying, loss of a loved one, betrayal of trust, abuse of power, rape, molestation, evictions, natural disasters, etc.
Traumas are all about the experience of the survivor. Some are able to live through traumas with ease while others may become substance abusers, depressed, develop personality disorders and anxiety. The survivors who have trouble coping after their traumas have personalities that manifest in our lives in many different ways: the mean co-worker, the unreliable friend, the difficult spouse.
We all know someone who exhibits behavior like the aforementioned personalities. The next time that you're having a disagreement with someone or made to feel less than, remember that this may be someone recreating abuse that they have experienced or coping with not feeling good enough. How they treat you has nothing to do with you! Read below for tips on how to cope with the difficult folks in your life:
How To Cope With Difficult Personalities
- Advocate for yourself always! If you feel disrespected or mistreated, always speak up and share your thoughts in a healthy way. Remember that everyone is not built to handle confrontation - approach each situation differently and be sensitive to the other person's feelings (even if they weren't to yours).l
- Be honest. Strong or difficult personalities can be scary to some and intimidating to others. Any fear that you may feel towards them is not real ya know?! In order for this person to heal, they need an honest account of what they do and how it makes others feel.
- Don't let them bring you down. Did you know that some people like negative energy just as much as positive energy? Never give them the satisfaction of seeing you sad or angry. Brush the pettiness off and keep it moving. They don't define you anyway!
- Lead by example. Show them true grace, resilience and confidence -- it may rub off on them.
- Show them love. Let them know how great they are and focus on what they do well. A genuine compliment always goes a long way!
How do you cope with difficult personalities? Chime in below!
There are some interesting people in this world who are doing some truly remarkable things. I personally love DJ Khaled’s Snapchat with his inspirational messages, viral catch-phrases and behind the scenes play-by-play of his daily rise as one of the most influential artists of 2016. Seeing this side of DJ Khaled is genius for his brand and makes a perfect fit for other influencers with cult social media followings.
I am all about building one’s personal brand by showing the world what you’re good at and what you are passionate about. What we do best inspires others! On social media we share our everyday occurrences, experiences and thoughts with our peers, friends, family and co-workers. What I struggle with when sharing parts of my personal life and career is, “How much is too much?”
Not an easy question to answer. A pastor of a church and a porn star would clearly have a very different presence on their social media handles (well let’s at least hope so!). There’s no end all be all when it comes to social media etiquette. Keep this in mind as you know your target audience and brand more than anyone else. Always do what's most organic for you!
However, for personal brands I truly believe in sharing a lot and keeping somethings mysterious. Those early morning conversations with your husband or that fight that you had last week with your bestie – do these moments really need to reach platforms like Instagram and Facebook? What do we hold sacred anymore? Are we oversharing or just giving no fucks about what anyone thinks?
I think that we are forgetting how sexy it is to be mysterious. We are all guilty of it. Our favorite fragrance is just that – ours. Getting a pedicure…who hasn’t? A snap of every look that you tried in the fitting room? No thanks, babe. There’s something to be said about a man/woman who doesn’t put all of their cards on the table. You want to get to know them. You want to know what hand they’re dealing.
Let’s all try to find a healthy balance between letting the world in and shutting it out. I know I will. You can’t know where I am right now, who I’m with or what I’m eating. Are you impressed? I hope so!
Keep it sexy my friends!
Queasy and exhilarating. Your body electrifies with potential. The warmth of success fills your veins. At that moment, there is no more hoping, for you have achieved something grand.
Maybe you achieved a goal or are on the receiving end of an amazing opportunity. You defied the odds, outshined the competition, proved the world wrong. Doesn't it feel beautiful? No words can truly describe those surreal moments, but you are familiar with how it feels to win.
But how does it feel when we lose? Are we numb? Do we begin to doubt ourselves? Are we withdrawn or hurt? Where is our appetite? Why did we isolate ourselves? Is the shame that we feel real or just a figment of our imaginations?
We all deal with failure and life's obstacles in different ways. Some of us move on fairly quickly while others escape reality (drugs, alcohol, busy schedule, etc.) or develop self-doubt and insecurity.
Failure fucking hurts. There is no way of getting around that. Those feelings are true and valid and you should honor them when felt. However, we shouldn't dwell on unfavorable events that occur to us. Here's a few reasons why:
Failure Is Divine
Take a moment and think of all of the jobs that you have had over the years. Did you ever stop to think that you getting the position meant that someone else wouldn't? Sometimes, other people need certain blessings more than we do. Or you may find that the opportunity was a bad fit and would have given you more trouble down the line.
Failure manifests into the following afirmations:
- Not right now.
- Not this way.
- Let's learn from this.
Obstacles ask these questions:
- Do you have faith that things will STILL work out?
- Are you learning how to/how not to go about this for future reference?
- Should this be your focus right now?
- How patient and persistent are you?
- Can you create a solution for this problem?
Failure/obstacles are divine because they protect us from unfavorable outcomes, events and circumstances that we cannot see. They also teach, train and nurture us to be better people.
Think of a time that you couldn't find your car keys and later discovered that you avoided an accident or if you weren't approved for a business loan but later discovered and received an amazing grant that covered your startup expenses.
Think of all the businesses that have been founded as a solution to a problem or need!
No Pain Lasts Forever
Tattoos hurt like hell, but the pain soon becomes a distant memory. Every time that I get a new piece, I'm reminded of this!
Failure is the same way, it hurts so bad at the moment when things go wrong. Time passes and things either get better or you focus on creating a solution for your problem.
You look back on those unfavorable moments and think of how you survived them. Don't you feel triumphant?
Life Has Too Many Ups and Downs..
...so be as emotionally intelligent as you can! Every unfortunate situation that happens to you is not a tragedy. You're also not the only person on earth who has experienced failure. Stay as positive as you possible. As life goes on, you will evolve and learn to appreciate the wrongs that didn't go right.
How do you cope with obstacles and failure?
The universe buries strange jewels deep within us all, and then stands back to see if we can find them. -Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic
In Finding Your Purpose: Part One we talked about brainstorming what our interests are and connecting with the talents that come most natural to us.
In Part Two we will share the steps to take to help you get there. Below you'll find some tips that will help you along your way. Dream on, dreamers!
Save Your Dough
Where there's a dream, there's a dollar. Put aside 10% of whatever you earn and start a "Dream Account". This savings account will accrue funds that will help you cover expenses like business licenses, logo design, web design, inventory, travel expenses, etc.
You don't have to be a millionaire to start a blog or to start selling you family's sauce recipe -- all you need is a little money to get started. The more prepared you are, the better off you will be. There are so many miscellaneous expenses that will pop up when you start your project!
When we think of making sacrifices, there's always a negative association that we have with giving up certain things. Ask yourself, are you really missing out on life if you skip a few Sunday brunches or postpone your regular boozy girls night out with friends to work on your project?
Coming from someone who doesn't remember what I or my friends did for our 21st birthdays, let me just say that as time goes by the little things do not matter. What matters most is your happiness.
The closer that we align ourselves with our life's purpose, the happier we are -- and everyone benefits from a happy you!
Now don't go on a social event cancellation spree. Just develop the discernment to know what is important and forget the rest. You will learn how to value your time and in turn, cultivate your project's growth.
Need tips on how to value your time? Check this post out!
Create Many Paths
I cannot stress how important it is to NOT commit yourself to one way of attaining your goal. Doors will shut, opportunities will present themselves and fade away, people won't help you all the time (or ever in most instances).
Think of different ways that you can get to where you need to be. For example, if your purpose is cooking wholesome food and working with children you could take the following steps to get your name out there:
- Develop a cool Instagram with styled photos of your best kids dishes. Use creative hashtags to gain influential followers.
- Collaborate with your local Whole Foods to teach a class on how to create simple organic kids meals. Use Whole Foods products during your demonstration to encourage sales.
- Become a contributing writer for a well known food blog and share your favorite healthy meal tips.
- Partner with a charter school in your neighborhood to cook a dinner for a school event (for free). If they like your dishes, write a proposal to cater school lunches for the next school year.
Four small ideas can potentially lead to someone living their life's dream full time! As mentioned before, the more prepared you are the more successful you will be. There are always many paths to attain one goal -- be creative!
No Egos Allowed
Most people's passion project never makes the light of day because of insecurity or an ego. Get used to the word 'No' because you will hear it a lot more than 'Yes'.
Being comfortable with rejection is a huge part of this process. Some rejection will be straight up hurtful while others will be indicative of bad timing. When you look back and connect the dots as visionary Steve Jobs famously mentioned, some of the rejection that you experience are blessings in disguise.
Remember, rejection doesn't mean never, just not right now or not this way. Don't take things personally, just keep pushing forward. It will all work out in the end.
Learn From Mistakes
Now that your ego is out of the way, learn from your mistakes.
Maybe a venture capitalist said no to your startup because your presentation lacked important information or you missed a business grant deadline because you didn't put an alert in your calendar.
Be honest with yourself about your shortcomings so you can be prepared and thorough when the next opportunity comes around. Putting a blind eye towards mistakes is a surefire way to fail.
News flash: family and friends will not be supportive of your project for a number of reasons. Self-interested people don't see the importance of dreams that exist outside of their own. Others find it hard to watch someone pursue their dreams when they are afraid to chase theirs. Some will be jealous of your gifts, talent, and the amazing strides that you have made.
Haters don't matter because their true issue is with themselves. No one can stop you from living your destiny. What's for you is for you and no one can change that.
Once someone reveals who they truly are, believe them. The universe tells us who's for and against us through life events. Listen to your gut instinct and act accordingly!
What is your purpose in life? What have your experiences been as you pursue your life's passion?
If you know Pinterest, you know the beauty of the life hack. It is serious! You can turn an old skateboard into a shelf or find an almost identical alternative to your luxury lipstick that you paid retail price for.
Have you ever discovered a hack for getting rich? In what seems to be the most simple hack discovered this year, Time shares the easiest ways to attain and keep your wealth game strong.
The secret to getting rich is living below your means.
"The bigger the difference between what you earn and what you spend," mentions Time, "the sooner you’ll find yourself with enough money to do what you want with your life."
Easier said than done, no? Americans no longer desire just the "American Dream". In a world where celebrity rules, we've become obsessed with luxury, acquiring "stuff" and being or having exclusive things.
Trying to keep up with your favorite Instagram star is the quickest way to fall into debt (especially when most bloggers/celebrities receive lots of things for free).
Living below your means is the truest way to amass wealth. When you spend less than you earn, you will begin to see how easy it is to reach financial goals and develop economic security.
Do away with unnecessary expenses.
To support this mindset one must live frugally. Live in a place that you can afford, don't purchase items that will put you in a financial bind and do away with expenses that are not necessities. Choose Netflix over cable, Planet Fitness over that fancy gym that you go to or shop at Trader Joe's instead of Whole Foods!
Automate your savings, use personal savings goals apps like Betterment. Put a significant portion of your tax return, bonuses or raises away.
This may not be the most exciting life hack or method to get rich, but with these simple steps you will have money saved in no time. Cheers to building wealth!
Have you ever headed to the airport to catch a flight on a cloudy day? Your flight takes off. You rise above the gray clouds and see the sun. That's how life is, lady.
The sun is always a few clouds away. Don't let any obstacles get the best of you. Everything that you've been working for is coming your way, even if you can't see it. Be patient.
Valentine's Day was just two weeks ago. I repeat, just two weeks. I walked into my neighborhood pharmacy the other evening and saw Summer beach toys for kids and Easter baskets. I rolled my eyes. Can we process the Russell Stover chocolate and wilted flowers that we received on V-Day before we move on to the next holiday or calendar-based season please?
I started to ask myself questions. Have things always been this way? Did my Mom roll her eyes when she walked into her local pharmacy after Valentine's Day in 1992?
If you're wondering why I rolled my eyes, its because America has become Holiday and "National Day" obsessed. In my calendar alone, I have counted 66 holidays and "National Days" like National Slurpee, National Magic and National Punch Day (hoping that it's the drink -- or not). From Labor Day to Independence Day, we cannot catch a break!
Now don't get me wrong, I am all about grilled corn and fireworks on the Fourth of July just like the next girl. I love eating my Grandmother's cooking and whippin' the Nay-Nay with my family during Thanksgiving. With the average American working a longer work week than ever before, we certainly need holidays. They remind us to slow down and enjoy life.
I really appreciate National Sibling Day but do we really need a National Pie Day? Here are my issues with holidays.
We Never Plan For the National Days
If it weren't for Instagram and Facebook, I wouldn't know that it is National Grandparents Day. I just log on as I normally do and see tons of photos of senior citizens on my feed along with a #NationalGrandparentsDay hash tag. All of this is really cute and touching (especially the captions) but who really took the time to rub icy hot on Pop Pop's back or take Grandma to the hair salon to get "her hair fixed"?
We can enjoy the special days only if we plan for them -- my new planner features all of the special days for the year so I'm going to try to be more aware!
Celebrating the Wrong People
So why do we celebrate Christopher Columbus day again? We know the true facts on his "discovery". We have also uncovered how terrible of a person he actually was -- he committed gruesome acts amongst women, indigenous people and slaves when he came to America.
Thank God that President's Day is more about getting savings on a mattress instead of actually celebrating presidents who didn't really want slavery to end. Unless you've been under a rock, you know that Lincoln didn't really want to abolish slavery. While the Internet will continually debate on whether George Washington's teeth came from the mouth's of slaves, one thing is for sure -- he needed slaves to maintain his lifestyle.
We don't need to wait for the government to do away with these holidays -- we can stop celebrating them now!
Do We Really Need A Day For Everything?
National Doughnut Day. Sorry not sorry, but I celebrate doughnuts everyday.
Money Is the Motive
Did you ever stop and think about how much money our holiday obsessions contribute to the economy? If you just can't live without that Santa Claus hat, be sure to shop small -- there are people in your city who need your support!
Create Your Own Holiday
We all have our very own holiday -- our birthdays. It's a time when we not only celebrate ourselves but our friends and families celebrate us too! Be open to creating other holidays that suit you, your family or your interests. Love to escape the winter? Take an annual Girl's Trip in January to a tropical getaway of your choice. Throw a party to celebrate being debt-free or make the last week of every June, family week where you visit relatives in different cities. Make your holidays count.
Do American Holidays bother you too? What holiday would you eliminate? What holiday would you create? Chime in below.
We've have all heard or said the phrase, "I don't like when people waste my time!". We feel disrespected and disgusted when someone stands us up or shows up late. Our blood boils when a client doesn't follow through or when we've dated someone who couldn't reciprocate the love (coughs!). If you have felt this way, you are right -- your time is important and others should treat it as such. But what happens when we waste our own time?
We often waste our own time and do not hold ourselves to the same level of respect that we demand from others. This is a huge problem! How can we expect someone to value our time when we don't value our own? Learn how to make your time a priority with the following tips.
Value Your Time As Much As You Value Your Money
Unlike money, you cannot get back time. Once time is wasted, it is gone forever! If I took you to a luxury boutique and told you to purchase something, you would pay careful attention to each price tag to: a) see if the quality of the piece justifies the price, b) if you could afford or have the budget for what you're interested in purchasing. Most of us wouldn't buy anything without researching customer reviews online.
Now if I asked you to join me for an amazing party this upcoming weekend with no cover charge and an open bar, you would probably make an effort to make it -- since we value money so much, we get really excited when things are free or discounted. When we have to shell out major cash, we are careful and discerning -- the same way that we should be with our time.
There is nothing wrong with free things or experiences -- I enjoy them too. However, if you have a goal that you're working towards or a project that needs your attention, make sure that you haven't committed to an engagement that will throw you off schedule.
Investing in yourself is one of the best ways to ensure that you live a rewarding life. Besides, who wants to live life with regrets and shoulda-coulda-wouldas?
Watch the Company That You Keep
Our free time is our "reward" to ourselves for working hard, no? Going to the museum inspires us, visiting a foreign country for the first time excites us and friends encourage us. When you have time to yourself, nourish your mind, body and soul with things like good food, an acclaimed novel, yoga and positive interaction.
I repeat, positive interaction! Stay clear of people with bad energy and negative outlooks on life. Not only will your time be wasted with them, you will also be spiritually drained from combating said energy.
How and who you spend your free time with is just as important as how you spend your days at work. Our time for leisure should recharge, not break us down. Watch the company that your keep and protect yourself from weird energy at all costs!
Learn to Say "No"
Not having the confidence to say no (and just plain "No". No explanation necessary!) is an exhausting game to play to say the least. There's a saying that goes, "Givers need limits because takers rarely do." This saying rings true for all you sweetie pies who just cannot let anyone down -- appreciable quality to have but don't end up letting yourself down, babe.
Are you valuing your time? What tips do you have time management?
Fashionista dropped their 2016 fashion salary survey yesterday. The survey which was anonymously completed by 4500 industry employees, gives an average idea of how much different positions pay. Check out the salaries below!
Assistant Buyer: $46,000
Assistant Merchandiser: $49,000
Visual Merchandiser: $52,000
Associate Buyer: $58,000
Store Manager: $60,000
Fashion Director: $120,000
Associate Publicist: $40,000
Senior Publicist: $66,000
Publicity Director: $101,000
Vice President Publicity: $170,000
Associate Marketing Manager: $43,000
Bookings Director: $54,000
Marketing Manager: $89,000
Senior Bookings Editor: $108,000
Marketing Director: $122,000
Social Marketing Manager, Entry Level: $41,000
Social Media Manager, Mid Level: $47,000
Social Media Manager, Senior Level: $53,000
Assistant Technical Designer: $36,000
Associate Technical Designer: $44,000
Assistant Designer: $61,000
Associate Designer: $65,000
Technical Designer: $72,000
Senior Designer: $104,000
Senior Technical Designer: $120,000
Creative Director: $157,000
Design Director: $163,000
Assistant Market Editor: $33,000
Editorial Assistant: $42,000
Assistant Editor: $46,000
Associate Editor: $47,000
Associate Market Editor: $47,000
Copy Editor: $49,000
Assistant Designer: $61,000
Managing Editor: $62,000
Senior Editor: $67,000
Senior Market Editor: $74,000
Senior Writer: $92,000
Editor at Large: $106,000
Director Level Editor: $143,000
Assistant Graphic Designer: $33,000
Assistant Photo Editor: $34,000
Graphic Designer: $75,000
Stylist's Assistant: $80,000
Senior Graphic Designer: $82,000
Photo Editor: $91,000
Design Director: $183,000
Creative Director: $206,000
Are you surprised by any of the salaries? What career are you pursuing in fashion?
Once I heard Oprah say that living without knowing your life's purpose is like riding really fast on a bicycle and not going anywhere. She's right -- our purpose fulfills not only us, but those around us who get to experience our gifts first hand. So what are your gifts? What talents has the Universe blessed you with?
Answering the aforementioned questions can be overwhelming to answer for just about anyone -- so start small with these steps:
Think about what comes natural to you. Write it down.
Are you a master at DIY projects? Do you find yourself always helping those who are less fortunate than you? Most of our life's passions come natural to us or spark and hold our interest. Write down a list of these talents and interests.
Make a list of jobs or volunteer positions that align with your natural talents.
If you love DIY and are passionate about helping the less fortunate, maybe you can teach arts and crafts with children at a homeless shelter. Write down a list of jobs that compliment your natural gifts. Don't be afraid to mix different talents and passions.
If jobs or volunteer positions are limited or non-existent, work on creating your dream job.
Don't get discouraged if your "dream job" doesn't exist -- this is where the fun comes in! You can get truly creative when brainstorming about entrepreneurial pursuits. Leave the limited thoughts behind --let your mind wander and document all of your thoughts. Who knows, you can create the next Eventbrite or Partpic!
Will you stay tuned for part two of this series? Do you know what your life purpose is? Share with us below!
Whether you're married or have been dating someone for a while, you may want to show your love by giving gifts on Valentine's Day. Little gifts go a long way, no? We have compiled a few gift ideas for you to give to your hubby, bae, boo or cuffing season partner (Wait. Don't gift him, he's seasonal!) Follow below for a little inspo and don't forget to pin to your Pinterest board!
Tom Ford Tobacco Vanille Parfum
Besides smelling like sweet cigarettes and sex, this opulent fragrance could come to be a classic staple in your man's cologne collection. The scent -- inspired by a gentleman's club, contains hints of white leather, cocoa, saffron and sweet wood sap. Warning: this scent may make you want to jump all over him in public -- don't embarrass yourself, girl. Keep it cute until you get home. Are you dying to know another plus to this purchase? The parfum is unisex (as almost all Tom Ford fragrances are) so dab a few drops on your pulse points too!
1.7 oz.; $220 at Sephora
Bose Soundlink Color Bluetooth Speaker
Choose this amazing speaker because quiet frankly, you're tired of hearing the Drake and Future mixtape from your lover's phone. Step his game up with this tiny yet powerful bluetooth speaker that has a range of up to 30 feet! The speaker is easy to carry and connects to most mobile devices. Not a fan of the red? This little baby also comes in black, blue, sea green and white. What's most exciting is that you both can reenact Beyonce's 'Drunk In Love' video next time you're on the beach. Sweet.
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$129.95 (and free shipping!); Bose.com
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Society6 has art prints that are beautiful and affordable! This is the perfect gift for a guy that you haven't dated for long or your boyfriend that is into the arts. Take your time and find a print that reflect who he is or tells the story of where he wants to go. He will appreciate it!
P.S. You can turn customize any art print on the site into a pillow or t-shirt. The possibilities are endless!
Framed art print; $36 and up; society6.com
Adidas Originals Suede Stan Smith
Valentine's sneakers for the win! You may never be able to date Pharrell but you can damn sure make your significant other looks like him. These stylish Stan Smith's will pair well with a head to toe look in army green or with his favorite jean jacket and pants. The suede upper will garner compliments where ever he goes. Tip: Stan Smith's run a bit odd so be sure to read the reviews before you purchase.
Men's Originals Stan Smith in Poppy/University Red; $85; adidas.com
Clinique For Men Sonicbrush x Skincare
Give him a new skin experience. Help him moisturize his situation like Diddy. Men swear by the Clinique Sonicbrush brush as it minimizes breakouts and preps the skin for shaving. Throw in a travel case and skincare essentials to seal the deal!
Clinique Sonicbrush; $89.50; clinique.com; find details for other skincare products on the site.
Shinola Detroit Leather Football
Appeal to his inner vintage sports side -- a side that even he didn't know existed. Shinola Detroit, a great curator of cool leather goods mentions that although this football overlaps sports equipment and art categories, it is ultimately made to be used. Unless he's playing football with Kanye West, this $150 football will work just fine as an accent at his place.
$150, Shinola Detroit
Crosley Cruiser Turntable
Introduce him to the wonderful world of vinyl records with the popular Crosley Cruiser turntable. Shop for records (old and new) at your local Mom & Pop shop or at Urban Outfitters. With a few records and his turntable, his shower singing will be on point -- and he will owe it all to you.
He loves Mexican but isn't well-versed in making you love his Mexican food. With a few recipes from this cookbook, his enchiladas will actually look like enchiladas. Everybody wins.
$14.99 Kindle; Hardcover $40.99; Paperback $18.42; Amazon.com
The Nixon 'Time Teller' watch is the perfect Valentine's trinket for a man who isn't really into watches. The sleek and modern design are perfect for formal and casual dressing alike -- and only $100! If you purchase from Nordstrom, they can remove links for free.
Beer Making Kit
What a great way for you both to spend time together! Help him concoct next level beers with the Beer Making Kit from Brooklyn Brew Shop. Not a huge beer fan? You can also make cider. The Complete Starter Set Costs $75 and includes: any kit, bottle cappers and a beer bottle set. Together you'll become the next Anheuser-Busch.
Free shipping on orders over $45; brooklynbrewshop.com
Cire Trudon Gaspard Scented Candle
Let's get one thing straight: he doesn't want a candle for V-Day, but he needs one. His pile of dirty socks and rotten food in the fridge don't quite smell like roses. With hints of mandarin and sandalwood, he will appreciate the difference that a candle makes at home -- it lightens ones mood and makes you happy to be home when you walk through the door. Once the candle blows through, he can keep the vessel and use it as a pen cup on his desk. Dope.
$105; Mr. Porter
What will you purchase for the special man in your life? What gift are you most likely to get from our guide? Comment below!