My right foot has a blister on it. I've been walking and standing in heels for 10 hours. I have had non-stop appointments today and I barely had a chance to eat. I text my husband all of the "horror" of my day.
I drive home in a daze -- you know the kind where you can't hear the words of the songs playing on the radio. The kind of temporary mental exit when you zone out and are unsure of how you drove home. I park and walk to my house. The grass in the yard is lovely and green, but needs to be cut. I frown. I open the door and slam my bag, jacket and body on the couch.
I smell something good cooking and I open to my eyes to make sure that I'm not imagining the smell of a mandarin sauce. I look to the left and there are three pots on the stove.
I get up and head upstairs. My husband is on his phone, you know, doing what husbands do. He looks up and says, "I made you dinner. I know your day was rough." I smile. Most women would be surprised or shocked at their husband doing such a thing, but this is normal behavior at our house. There are no gender roles.
Now, I am the better cook so I prepare most of our meals (sorry, Linz). I enjoy cooking new recipes that I have found on Pinterest. My husband prefers to shovel the snow and check the house when we hear random noises at night. Those are our preferences. But, understand that if my husband is unable to shovel the snow, I will. If I hear a bump in the night and he's sound asleep, I will check the house (with a broom, knife or both of course!). In this case, when I was brutally tired, he cooked dinner for us. The perfect ending to a hectic day.
When you love someone, you make their life easier. Gender roles limit how we can make our partner's lives easier, so my husband and I have put our middle fingers up to them, and society for creating them.
Chicas, the next time that it snows (Hopefully not until next year. I cannot take anymore this year!), I challenge you to help your husband clear the driveway. Muchachos, wash the clothes, fold them and put them away. Watch the love and admiration grow between the two of you. Pay attention to the all of the good energy that you have brought into your home.
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